Contact Missy to Schedule an Appointment: Missy@calmdowncoach.com

Strategies That Work Program

These are small group or personal 1-1, 2-6 week programs.  I will share ideas and resources as well as provide support when there are challenges. 

Goal: discuss and compare strategies that are working.

Different strategies help different people-our brains have the same basic structure but we all interpret information individually. I focus on Think About Your Thinking…Now, let’s discuss Strategies that Work as we 'Think About Our Thinking'...together!

Sample Classes and Coaching Topics

Ways to Communicate About Your Symptom Journey 

• 2 weeks, Zoom session each week for 90 minutes-- All Sessions are Live! Sessions are NOT recorded for confidentiality reasons.

• Time: Thursdays at 4 pm PT; 5 pm MT; 6 pm CT; 7 pm ET; 1 am CET; 9 am AEDT

• Dates: Wednesdays-TBD

• Dates: Thursdays-TBD

• (Australia one day later)

Discussions

Week 1

Introduction: How has your identity changed as a couple as a person? What changes would you like to see? Creating open communication strategies to discuss those Dragon thoughts…ok the Danger Signals, Fear, Anxiety, the Inner Critic.  Discuss ways to remember that Triggers can be like waves, even gifts; small waves may knock you over but when you learn how to swim, you can swim further out...Jon Kabat-Zinn "we can't stop the waves but we can learn how to surf."  Discuss ways that you can work together on a gratitude practice, meditation and/or a focus on writing work.  All three can increase empathy and understanding.  

Week 2

Somatic Tracking, Pain Reframing & Activities We Can Enjoy Together-How do we talk about all of this? Go TO strategies when symptoms pop up…what questions do we ask each other? 

What conversations will help me feel safe vs causing anxiety or a feeling of being on high alert?  How do I remember to ask healing & safety questions that work? What are some soothing responses? Discuss ways to navigate changes and adjust activity expecations. Discuss strategies to anchor habits for healing as well as maintaining intimacy and affection. Finding joy and celebrating small victories.

Future Program Outline - 1st in the Group Series

• 6 weeks, Zoom session each week for 90 minutes --All Sessions are Live! Sessions are NOT recorded for confidentiality reasons.

• Time: Mondays at 10 am PT; 11 am MT; 12 CT; 1:00 pm ET; 6 pm CET; 4 am AEDT 

• 20 participant max

• Dates: TBD

Discussions

Week 1

Introduction: not a ‘check in’...then, How has your identity changed? How have you calmed those Dragon thoughts…ok the Danger Signals, Fear, Anxiety, the Inner Critic?  

Week 2

Pain Reframing-New ways of thinking about 'triggers & symptoms:'  They can be like waves, even gifts; small waves may knock you over but when you learn how to swim, you can swim further out...Jon Kabat-Zinn "we can't stop the waves but we can learn how to surf."  What "surf/swim" strategies work to change the way your brain interprets pain & creates safety...how does a gratitude practice, meditation and/or writing work for you?  

Week 3

Somatic Tracking-When symptoms pop up…what questions do you ask yourself? Are these thoughts helping me feel safe or are they causing anxiety or a feeling of being on high alert and in danger?  How do I remember to ask healing & safety questions that work? What are some soothing responses? What does my body need now? …

Week 4

Habit Stacking-move past procrastination and increase patience. Strategies to anchor habits for healing. Creating space to release thoughts and/or a self pre-occupation with stories that no longer serve you.

Week 5

Strategies for Sleeping: Share what works for you-it might just work for someone else. What can I do from the beginning to end of day that will help me sleep? Discuss ways to incorporate habit stacking and positive expectancy that will easily work for me. 

Week 6

What ways am I having fun, is my life soul satisfying-but hey, how do I deal with Stress?…we will tackle the stress topic so that we can discuss what enriches my soul, how do I bring this enrichment concept to daily living, to my job, to my life…how do I expand it?…with or without symptoms.

Program Outline-Let's Keep Talkin'-2nd in the series

• 6 weeks, Zoom session each week for 90 minutes --All Sessions are Live! Sessions are NOT recorded for confidentiality reasons.

• Time: Mondays at 10 am PT; 11 am MT; 12 CT; 1:00 pm ET; 6 pm CET; 4 am AEDT 

• 15 participant max

• Dates: TBD

Discussions

Week 1

Identity: continued discussion based on the concept, "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer

Creating a library of self worth stories to reinforce the 'new me.' 

Week 2

Emotions:  is it anger or anxiety or both?  Let's discuss Heart Brain coherence. What is it, what does it feel like? As it relates to symptoms and emotions, let's discuss ways this focus might fit as we continue to create new neural-pathways. 

Week 3

Relationships: strategies for communicating symptoms with loved ones & friends; reframing how they think of 'me.' Let's discuss empathetic listening and its benefits. 

Tune up: choose discomfort over resentment; protect your energy.

Week 4

Re-imprint, Re-parent: What is means, how to do it and how to let go of those stories that still bounce around my head. Re-writing my story so it works for me. 

Tune up: choose compassion for yourself and others.

Week 5

Automatic writing: Strategies for connecting with the question-What is mine to do today? 

Week 6

Strategies to trigger breakthroughs?…moving past appearances, bolstering gratitude, inviting serenity into my nervous system, serving others, vision and purpose. 

Testimonials from previous 'Groups'

• "So far I'm a couple weeks into Missy's Strategies that Work class, and it's clear I've already gotten so much value out of the class and community. Missy has a way of intentionally fostering connection throughout the group and helping everyone feel included. The weekly recap and looking ahead emails include helpful notes, resources, and inspiration. I really appreciate having these notes to reference for motivation throughout the week. I sincerely thank you Missy for creating this beautiful Strategies that Work group. I don't have the words right now to express how much this group means to me. This class has provided me with more support and calm awareness in many aspects of my life. I can't wait to grow closer to my new community and continue healing on my own recovering journey. I am truly grateful for this opportunity!"-Emma, Washington, 2023

• "I am so appreciative for you. I really mean that. You walk the happy talk!!! And that is so important to me and others. You remind us that there is so much we can do in just one minute to shift our brains. And that one minute can make all the difference in our entire day/week/month." 

• "I have so much to detail about what I appreciate about Missy, so it's hard to even start. I think that she is a rare combination of being both very knowledgeable and certain unique character, that know how to emotionally HOLD us, the participants in the group. Being a clinical psychologist, I know how therapists can lean toward the seriousness. But the thing which was really evident with Missy, is her ability to blend seriousness and playfulness: taking us and the matter we come with, very seriously, while still keeping the smile simultaneously."

• Missy Warner was a brilliant facilitator. Missy was very good in guiding the group as well."

• "She is so warm and informal and open that her skill as a facilitator is virtually invisible, but having facilitated groups myself, I appreciate her skill."

• "Missy was an incredible facilitator. She kept conversations flowing by asking probing questions, helped us develop the habit of daily gratitude in our individual lives and within the group, for one another, and our physical symptoms were never explicitly discussed/explained up front; Missy allowed space for us to discuss them organically."

• "Missy was wonderful in our group she was always there, always cared and kept her group flowing well. She really did make a huge difference- it would’ve been sad to of gotten somebody unprofessional without heart. Good for her and thank you for your service it’s been life-changing. Thank you again."

• "Missy, who ran our group, was excellent at keeping us on track and looking beyond our answers. She was consistent in her approach and always made sure that everyone had an equal opportunity to speak & voice their achievements or questions." 

Refund Policy

I do not provide refunds on “Strategies that Work…Thinking about Your Thinking.”  By signing up for my small group, 6 week program, you are making a commitment to continuing your healing journey with like minded participants and to your growth.  The quality of the experience depends on committed group members to exchange ideas and have an interactive discussion moving forward.  If someone cancels, I am unable to fill the spot since this would compromise trust and relationships already established.